WRITING TO AND FROM YOUR HEART
Energized physical release is not the only way to clear emotional debris and arrive at more in the way of peace with path. As part of the healing process, it may also serve you to write a letter to someone who has hurt you. You may not send it to them either because it isn’t necessary, or because they aren’t available or alive, but there is still much to be said for granting yourself permission to express—in the clearest words possible, and over as much time as you need—exactly what you feel and need to express. The most important thing, as you are writing, is that you stay heartfully connected to that individual and to what has to be expressed in its totality. Don't rush the process, don't try to do it all at one sitting. Take your sweet time, until you feel truly and fully self-expressed with respect to all your feelings, including grief and anger. And if you are someone who doesn’t like to letter write, you can certainly accomplish the same thing in other creative forms, including but not limited to dance, painting, and the making of music. Anything that expresses what wants to be expressed in its totality.
There can also be value in writing the healing letter you long to receive. It may not be remotely realistic that the person who hurt you could write such a letter, but that’s not necessarily relevant. What is relevant is that you grant yourself permission to have an experience of what it would be like to feel seen, heard, honored, and loved. And if you can’t imagine someone who hurt you expressing their regret, write a letter from your inner adult to your (wounded) inner child expressing their love for you and their concerns about what you endured. Give yourself permission to feel the love that lives at the heart of your inner protector. We imagine ourselves all alone with our struggles, but there is always a part of us that is looking out for our better interests and that exists solely for our benefit. An inner presence that was birthed to keep us afloat in the storms of life. Give them permission to express themselves.