SUGGESTIONS FOR REMAINING VIBRANT IN THE COMING YEAR(S)
Free copy of my love story ‘An Uncommon Bond' included...
People often ask me why it feels so difficult to be here, now. It’s such an important question. I believe that we have reached a kind of trauma tipping point as a collective, one where the adaptations and disguises that served us are quickly losing their effectiveness. They worked for a long time, but they no longer do. There is now too much accumulated trauma to bury, and we long to unburden ourselves. In other words, the real is getting harder to bypass because our individual and generational trauma is pushing its way to the surface. And not a moment too soon. With the relational and planetary challenges before us, we will need all the energy we can muster to make our way through. Repression, privilege, and artifice will only ensure our demise. Expression, equality, and authenticity will see us through.
A few suggestions on how to make your way in the coming years:
(1) Unpack your emotional bags. Acknowledge the trauma you are carrying, and do all you can to understand its roots and to heal it. When we are riddled with unresolved material (“the power of then”), the path is blocked. Where possible, move some of it through so that more space opens up inside. You will need your energy to effect meaningful change; (2) Be aware of any tendency to bypass reality. The temptations are everywhere. If you need to bypass, do it consciously so that you can return back to reality when things feel safe again. Detachment is a tool—its not a life. And its not the way of being that will serve us going forward. We don’t need floaters right now. We need those who can stand their ground, in the heart of reality; (3) Engage in acts of sacred activism. That is, bring your benevolent intentions into the world where they are needed. Get your heart on your sleeve, your boots on the ground, and do something, anything, to make our world a better place. We are a remarkable species, balancing our quest for individual actualization with our co-creational nature. If ever there was a time for us to join forces with like-spirited others, it’s now; (4) Find your people, love your people, help your people. Don’t waste your time on those who don’t show up when you need them the most. Find your soulpod. Build a world of like-spirited others that will stand beside you when you face our individual and collective challenges. Even one true ally can make all the difference; (5) Love yourself as best as you can. Build your healthy ego. Solidify your sense of self. This is not always easy, given that we have been shamed and controlled for centuries, but it is perhaps the most essential work of all. Because our faith in ourselves empowers us. It illuminates our offerings. It ignites us to step towards the world, and to have the audacity to demand change. The more sovereign we become, the more meaningful our impact. Don’t doubt your significance. We need what you have to offer desperately. And now is the time to bring it.