My politically inspired memoir

Hi friends, I want to inform you that I have been working on a politically inspired memoir for some time. The updated version is nearly complete. At this stage, I have no plan in place to publish it. It is a book I am finishing for my own (and Susan’s) protection, and because I am seeking personal closure after a very lengthy and bewildering journey. For a variety of grounded reasons, I am concerned that determined efforts will be made to undermine and obstruct my completion process. We live at a time where politically motivated individuals and organizations freely infiltrate and influence seemingly independent government agencies, public corporations, and investigative entities, in an effort to disable perceived political threats. Trust me—I have learned this the hard way. As I work my way towards putting this behind me, I feel it is important that I share this concern on the public record.

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How to heal from a broken heart when the soul is involved

While working on my next course—Healing Unresolved Love Relationships—I’ve come up against the most challenging questions: How to move on from a relationship that has a soulful quality? Is the healing process different than with other love connections?

I’m still inside of those questions. Here is an excerpt from class 4, for anyone who struggles with this and finds the topic engaging. More to come as the course reaches completion:

“One of the most confounding aspects of the healing journey is the lingering feeling that whatever happened between the two of you, had a soul-mating quality to it. In other words, that you weren’t merely drawn to each other on a human level, but you were also drawn to each other on a soulful or spiritual level. This truth, or this belief, can make closure more difficult or much easier. Easier if you tend to believe that soulful connections come into our lives to teach us something, and that once we learn the lesson we are emboldened to let go and move on. This quote from my book, An Uncommon Bond, speaks to this view...

“We must be under no illusion that all soul mates are meant to last a lifetime. Some are only meant to last a moment. That brief soul gaze with a ‘stranger’ at the grocery store that reminded you of your own essence was just right. That unexpected weekend encounter that set your spirit to soar is perfect. That great love that walked away after cracking your heart open was just what the soul doctor ordered. Whatever you need to smooth the rough diamond of the soul. No matter how long they last, profound connections paint pictures of possibility in the sky, expanding our lens for all eternity.”

Of course, it is often more difficult, because soulful connections cut so deep, and penetrate such expansive and depthful terrain, that one doesn’t know how to make sense of them in simple psychological terms, and one doesn’t know how to return to the mundane aspects of reality in their absence. It’s kind of like a magic tragic carpet ride that transforms you so much that you don’t understand the world in the same way anymore. This is particularly true if you believe that you had An Uncommon Bond—a term crafted by Virginia Hine and Jeanne Achterberg—or perhaps a “twin flame” relationship. Even more difficult is distinguishing between authentic Uncommon Bonds and Twin Flames, and those that we simply longed to believe were that. If they were truly that, then it is very likely that they cracked you open like nothing before, AND simultaneously devastated you like nothing before, and now you are trying to figure out how to let go of both the person AND the soul of that person. In other words, their flesh and their essence. No easy task in a world where we seldom encounter anything that reminds us of something more than our daily obligations and habitual frameworks of perception.

If this resonates with your experience, then the rest of the sense-making element of this course has an additional layer to process and make sense of. A layer that re-frames everything else and sees it in cosmic and/or karmic terms. Because even if you can recognize a traditionally psychological series of reasons why you connected with the person—for example, a people pleasing tendency, an attachment pattern, an abandonment wound—you might also be of the view that it was something higher or something rooted in past lives that brought you together. In other words, that the psychological patterns don’t matter because there was a synchronistic quality to the connection that transcends those patterns and issues.

This is where it gets difficult, and also very interesting. Because even if you had an experience of being cracked open to a kind of vulnerability, ecstasy, and openness, that catapulted you beyond this realm, it is also very likely that you also encountered the opposite. That is, profound depths of pain and triggering in the heart of that opening. Great love uncovers everything unlike itself. It is the great revealer, and making sense of it and reaching a place of closure with it often requires somewhat different considerations. You still have to feel and heal your way through it, but you may also have to make sense of where it fits within your karmic legacy.

And, you have to reconcile one of the great frustrations of the human experience— that our world has not yet evolved structurally, psychologically, and relationally to a place where it can hold soul love safe. The great crack open of the heart opens us to the great mystery, and to all the trauma that our healing-avoidant species has accumulated. As a result—and this is something to grieve—that kind of love is often unsustainable. Because its not just the sweet openings we have to heal from. It is also the overwhelm of shadow material that rose to the surface and got in the way. Soul love can be so bewildering, because it can be so very beautiful and so very ugly. And finding closure with it, requires us to make sense of something more than our psyche. It requires us to make sense of the cosmos that lives within and between us.”

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Treasure yourself, Jeff