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Dear Reader: While I appreciate the fact that many people truly enjoy the holidays, many do not. For some of us, this holiday season is tremendously difficult. The pressure to conform, the marketed image of the 'perfect family' (which seldom ever exists, in fact) to compare our lives too, the generalized hyper-tension in the air, is enough to drive some people over the edge. It is particularly difficult for those who were made to feel peripheral in their family-of-origin. Not because they deserved it, but because they were too individuated, too rebellious, too determined to let go of finding a path that is uniquely their own. The courage it takes to go it alone, particularly in the heart of a judgmental and privileged family-of-origin, is no small thing. If that is you, deep bows to you…
What is often forgotten is that the scapegoat, the black sheep, the crazy one, is actually the one who is healing the family line. Their brave insistence on being who they are is the thing that actually pioneers a new way of being for the family system itself. Their tendency to do the healing that nobody else is willing to do, is the step forward for their ancestry. So, if you are choosing to be alone this holiday season, or if you are choosing to be with your family-of-origin even if its difficult, know that you are the key that opens the door to new possibilities for generations of family members who were unable or unwilling to cross the bridge to new ways of being…
This doesn’t mean that it’s easy. I assure you, I know that it isn’t. But it’s a remarkable thing that you choose to hold to what you know to be true, amid an overwhelm of conformity. It’s a remarkable thing, and I want you to know that you are not alone with that consciousness this holiday season. We walk the individuated path together.
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For anyone seeking transformational support over the coming weeks, here is a list of my ongoing download and interactive courses…
Interactive Courses
Susan Frybort’s Poetry Healing Course (begins January 9th, 2024). A remarkable healing and expression course to begin 2024!: https://www.soulshapinginstitute.com/events/the-poetry-healing-course-writing-from-your-heart-and-soul-15/
My Finding and Living Your Sacred Purpose Course (begins January 30th, 2024):
My Writing Your Way Home Course (begins February 6th, 2024):
My Enrealment Method Course: Where Presence meets Purpose (begins March 27, 2024):
Personal Sessions and Immediate Download Courses
Sessions with me… Session Link
The Abandonment Wound Healing Course
The Narcissistic Abuse Healing Course
The Inner Child Rising Healing Course (Healing the effects of Unawakened Parents): Inner Child Healing Course
The Sacred Feminine Rising Course (Healing the Effects of Unawakened Men): Sacred Feminine Rising Healing Course
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The Inner Child Meditation (An inviting way to begin the year!)
Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Take all the time you need to find a place in your environment that feels relaxing and inviting. Be sure your clothes are loose and relaxed as well.
When you are ready, close your eyes and go inside. Notice your breath- is it calm and balanced, or is it moving quickly, out of step with your center? Is it shallow, or depthful? Connect in with it, your best friend, your truth-teller, the breath of life.
Now invite your thoughts to fade… keep returning to the breath, let the breath become your consciousness, inhalation, exhalation, inhalation, exhalation… thoughts fading as we go deeper into the feeling tenor... the breath of the heart...
Now imagine a place- any place at all that brings you comfort. It can be an environment that you remember from early life, a place you escaped to later in life, anywhere at all that feels safe, a refuge for your healing journey… Imagine the place deeply… make it as vivid colorful and textured as you want… or keep it simple, minimalist, pristine… it can be a field, or a room or a sky, anywhere that calls you home…
Now imagine yourself there at a prior time in life, at a time when you were a child, vulnerable and genuine and available to the moment... imagine yourself in physical form- as a baby or an infant- at a time when life was difficult, at a time when you would have welcomed kindness, compassion and presence from another. Go inside and feel those feelings, that which you longed for, that which you needed, that which was missing… Be with the memory and energy of that moment in time, as though it is happening right now... breath into it… invite yourself to feel it all…
Now step back and witness your child self… just look at you… through the eyes of your current consciousness… through your adult eyes… the who you are now watching the who you were then, the inner child and the inner adult witnessing each other..
Now imagine yourself walking into the scene… walking toward your child self… when you reach him or her, get down on your knees and sit. Look deeply into their eyes, into your own eyes at an earlier stage of life. Let your inner child feel you looking at them, seeing them, attuning to them, granting them the presence so desperately needed in that moment of challenge. Validate their existence and worth with your presence. Just be there, fully there for as long as you like...
And then, if and when it feels right, reach over and embrace them. Embrace your inner child. Embrace them for them, and embrace them for you. Give them the love they needed at that time. And let them remind you of your own vulnerability and gentleness. Hold each other close for as long as you both need…
Blessings to your crazy path, Jeff
I love this one, Jeff!