One of the most helpful ways to empower your relationship to the self that lives at the heart of sacred purpose is to strengthen your relationship with your own inner adult. So you have a loving and sturdy presence to support you on the healing and transformation journey. Ultimately, you may want to shift from an imagined supportive presence to one that truly lives inside of you. The inner adult that is you. One that takes up space as a core element of who you are, and that becomes safe enough and credible enough for your inner child to turn to it to have its needs met.
The following interactive TOOLS helped me to shift some patterning some time ago. It is essential to engage them with psychotherapeutic support, if you find the emotional material difficult to work with. I call these tools ARTT (Art with Two T’s) and included them in my Abandonment Wound Healing Course. Although abandonment was the context for them, they can be helpful with respect to any wound space that relates to the inner child-inner adult dynamic. A.R.T.T. is an acronym for the 4 primary aspects of the inner adult and inner child dynamic that need to be developed. The A stands for Attunement, the R for Reassurance, T for Trust-building, and the second T for Touch. If you can learn how to provide them for yourself, you can go some way down the road to becoming someone who no longer experiences reality through an abandoned or fragmented lens. And you can more easily rescue yourself in those moments of triggering. I will list some examples of these tools below.
I encourage you to explore them (and to develop some of your own) in the coming weeks, and to continue to do so over time. The bridge between the inner adult and inner child will not get built overnight, but will pay dividends if fortified over time. Over time, they can actually become as one…